Work can be monotonous, never ending. But days like today reminded me of the importance of human interaction, and also reminded me that certain human principles are universally applicable in serving to help people from the troubles that they may find themselves in. I was serving a customer day, who honestly looked no older than about 60 years old. She seemed to have no kind of physical impairment apart not being able to move at full speed, she was amusingly sharp and assertive as to to what she was looking for. It was probably a combination of these factors that caused me to think that she was no older than about 60 years old. So it was to my complete shock when she said, smilingly, ”you know, I don’t need anything too fancy, I probably wont be around for a lot longer”. I stopped, lingered on this and asked what she meant as I was pretty confused… she said “well, I am 90”…. 90! 90 YEARS OLD I THOUGHT. So I asked her what her secret was to getting to 90 and not looking like she was 90. She said, “Always be happy, its important to be happy”. And it sort of hit me.
As humans, we can cause our own suffering sometimes, because we don’t realise that we have a choice, no matter how hard making the right choice is. This has been something that I have been thinking about for a while now, and something has grown on me, particularly since a friend of mine posted the following tweet:
"Is it crazier to choose to be poor or to spend 40 years of your life hating 40 hours a week?"
I see people all the time that just aren’t happy. And the saddest thing is that I am talking about people my age- young people who have everything to live for and everything to be happy about. My best friend decided that he had nothing left to live for when he had the whole world at his feet. He put an end to his life because he was just wasn’t happy, and it is that idea that will haunt and hurt me for the rest of my life.People aren’t happy- the world is getting more advanced- faster, more efficient, more intelligent. And it seems that we’ve tried to slipstream human emotions into the same process- we don’t think, we just do. We’re scared to ask for help when it really matters, and get caught up in things that just don’t matter. Why? We are losing the basic things that are important- like being happy, or just at least compassion in its rawest form. We’re all guilty of it, because we are all products of the modern society in which we live.
This, like most of my blog posts is a rather circular thought. It’s not really moving anywhere, and I haven’t found a finite resolution to solve this problem for everyone because I just don’t know what makes everyone happy- we all want different things. But I’ve decided to conscientiously make an effort to be happier about what is around me.
I am incredibly stressed, but I feel happy because I am studying something that I enjoy, and something that pushes me- I’m not doing what I’m doing for future prospects of money. I am just doing it because it makes me happy and being happy is the best thing to drive you towards your goals.
Last week I was angry at someone because I misjudged them and thought they were someone that they’ve proven not to be. But now I’m happy, because anger is just the first stage of realisation and its very cliche, but some doors close, and at the same time, other windows open. I’m not going to get strung up on silly things, because I just don’t have enough mental capacity to care about the person or the thing- everything we know is always moving, changing- and so it makes sense that people and the emotions that you have towards them are changing too.
Here’s a final thought, Albert Einstein said, "If you want to live a happy life, tie it to a goal, not a thing or a person".
I think goals are prone to change, we can wake up everyday and feel completely different about the situation. But I think that no matter what your goals transform into, or where they come from, their core value should be the same. Don’t do something for the sake of doing it- you have a choice, and even though it may feel like a beating in the short term, in the long term you should surely reap the benefits of doing what is right for yourself.
Don’t be unhappy. There is no need.